Look forward to reading the thread from you next year, when you were totally screwed over by the whole Greek system because you didn't get another bid.
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[QUOTE=LAblondeGPhi;2262435]YES!!
OP - the first thing you need to know about the recruitment process is that it is complicated and that 99% of ACTIVE members do not understand the inner workings of the RFM process. Plus, with highly selective chapters, they will probably have whole pref parties full of women whom they ADORE. I don't doubt that actives in your dream chapter really did love you and lobby for you and assumed that you chose to go elsewhere when they didn't see you in their pledge class. While the membership selection process is private and secret to each individual chapter, I feel confident in saying (from years of seeing the same things being said by actives of all chapters) that most active members never know the detailed order of bid lists of their own chapters - they simply DO NOT KNOW where you were on the bid lists. They only know that they really loved you and wanted you. Last thing, which I've said in other forums before. The difference between carried to the next round and released, or pledged and not pledged, can be razor thin between PNMs. There is an arbitrary cut-off that is assigned by Panhellenic (not by the chapter), and that often means that there is no statistical difference between how much a chapter liked the last woman invited and the first woman released. I'm sorry you're so upset by the whole process, but you need to put your big girl underwear on now and learn to deal with disappointment in a mature way. This is life, girl. [QUOTE] This is spot on information and written in a way any one can understand it. There are very few actives or alumna members who understand RFM. |
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I wonder if the OP went/will be going through recruitment again this fall?
I say went/will be because UA finished recruitment already and ASU/NAU start pretty quick here. I think ASU started tonight or starts tomorrow night. |
Everyone says "maximize your options and you'll get a bid to one of the organizations you preffed " BUT here's a question:
If you were only invited to one pref and attended it, but that org puts you low on the list, then what? Do you get a bid because you DID maximize your options? Does the order of the list trump that? Does the system recognized that you only had 1 pref invite and match it automatically, even if you're low? |
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That just makes me hope that the daughter ends up marrying an agnostic tattoo artist or Pauly D or something.
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How incredibly rude! |
Wow. Aside from that being rude, it is also incredibly demeaning. The last time my mother dragged me away from something was when I was 5.
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It was rough at HOGG this year. There were many mothers that were behaving like they were disgusted with the process. They forget it is not their process. I understand it is emotional but they have to understand it is not their journey. The best thing a mom can do in a situation like that is tell her daughter to give it a shot and make the best of it. Honestly, if the chapter was "that bad" then the mother should have advised the daughter to SIP. Yes, the daughter would have gotten the call but it would have been private and not a public circus of a few jeers among the cheers. Because honestly, they stick out like sore thumbs.
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