FWIW - I was dropped by a chapter to which I was a direct legacy. It might have been because I was rushing as a sophomore after transfering from another school, it might have been because I burst into tears at the second party because I had just learned my aunt had died, it might have been because I unknowingly wore almost the same exact dress as the Gamma Phis had chosen, it could have been that I was a drama major, and there are some chapters who have concerns about that, it could have been any number of things. I was tempted to drop out of rush entirely, but I knew as a sophomore I would not have many options.
I pledged Gamma Phi, and never looked back. I did all I could to make myself worthy of the trust Gamma Phi placed in me when they gave pinned me with those brown and mode ribbons and the crescent pledge pin. I can also report that my mother sat next to a friend and sister of this legacy chapter at my graduation. As I was brought forward to receive the Outstanding Senior Woman Award for my class, she turned to my mother and said, "How did we miss that girl during rush?". :) If you don't receive an invitation from a chapter with whom you are a legacy, or with whom you were certain you clicked, don't lose faith. It may be that you were meant to be somewhere else. I always advise young women going through recruitment to think - wouldn't you rather be in a group that really wants you, as opposed to throwing yourself against a brick wall of women who, however popular or cool they may be, do not love you the way your sisters should? Read the many recruitment story threads that show women who wound up in a totally different house than they imagined they would at the start of recruitment. Try to be open minded, and look for the place where you will be most at home. |
Great post SWTXbelle!
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First of all, this thread was only reactivated after LadyLonghorn's thread was moved. Secondly, the reason why this thread was still around was, as I said, at the time it was created things were different around here and until it was bumped, there was no reason to remove it.
If you think out of fairness this thread should be closed, too, I'll do it. I'm looking into who, and why, LL's thread was moved. I was not involved in the decision, actively or otherwise. |
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As far as LL's thread is concerned, I was unaware of the controversy as I've not been around much except to handle Reported Posts and ban spammers. By the time I got to my inbox with the reported posts from LL's thread, it had already been archived. |
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This one deserves a bump for the 2009 season (there are some REALLY good posts here). Esepcially this one by AChiOSnap:
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And remember that rejection works both ways. I was always disappointed when a PNM who I thought was a best fit for us chose another sorority.
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Sure, but this is kind of an irrelevant point when it comes to PNMs who don't get bids. This thread is geared toward those PNMs (not sorority members). It means nothing to a PNM who didn't get a bid if one would say "But look at all the sororities who didn't get all the girls they wanted." That PNM is not going to care about that. Why not? Because even if chapters don't get all of the girls they want, at least those girls are IN a sorority. |
I agree, KSUViolet06, and this is a good bump.
But I do think phimusam has a point - and it would probably make a good thread after recruitment - it just doesn't belong in this thread. |
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If you don't receive an invitation from a chapter with whom you are a legacy, or with whom you were certain you clicked, don't lose faith. It may be that you were meant to be somewhere else. QUOTE] This exactly! During my recruitment I was dropped by a chapter I was a legacy to, and wasn't particularly thrilled with my invitations for the day. After a good long cry to my recruitment counselor she told me this (at least this was the gist of it): "So what if ABC & XYZ didn't want you? Heck! ABC & XYZ didn't want me either. But I stuck with it, no matter how badly I wanted to drop out, or how bad I felt on the inside, or how much I felt like I wasn't as good as all the other girls who did get invited back to ABC & XYZ. And you know what? I couldn't be happier that ABC & XYZ dropped me, because otherwise I may have never become a part of the wonderful sisterhood I'm in now!" I guess the point I'm trying to make is that a lot of other girls get dropped from houses they thought they were perfect for too. A lot of these girls end up as amazing sisters of other houses, who couldn't be happier, because they didn't take themselves out of recruitment. |
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This is good advice, but it's probably meant more for girls who don't end up in their top choice, not so much for those who didn't get bids at ALL. If we had a "what to do if you don't get your first choice" thread, this would be perect for it. |
Bumping for all the GC PNMs to read before 2010 recruitment.
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My 2 cents on some things to think about if you're considering releasing yourself.
1) Even if you're not happy with the groups you have left, stick around until pref night, no matter what. Even if you absolutely hate the group(s) you have left, you never know. Go through pref night and see what happens. You never know, the group you hated could end up being more amazing than you realized! Worst case scenario, if you still don't feel right after pref, you don't have to sign your card. 2) Remember, it only takes ONE! You could be dropped by every single group except for one after the very first night, and still end up being part of an amazing sisterhood! Again, even if it's the one group you loathed on the first night, give it a chance. You never know. |
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Your advice would be better in this thread: http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ghlight=choice |
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