I don't know why I keep getting rejected during rush
 

I rushed at least four different times now. I know people are going to ask me why I rushed so many times, but I really want to be in greek life. It just frustrates me why I keep getting rejected.

I been to basically every single chapter at my school, and I been told no by all of them. I been respectful, well-dressed, confident, and so on. I wasn't being creepy. Yet, I keep getting rejected. Even the chapters that are low on members rejected me. I am that undesired, and it really hurts me emotionally. It does make me feel like there is something wrong with me.

I tried working on my social skills between rush cycles, but it didn't help at all. I still come off as hated and unlikeable to others, and I just don't know how to fix it. It frustrates me when people say things like "there is a chapter for everyone", yet I been told no by everyone.

I am going to be a senior next year, so it is all over for me. It is just so frustrating when people lied to me and told me that joining greek life was a great way to make friends or improve your social skills or whatever only when that wasn't the case in practice.

I'm going to be a bit generic here. There isn't a chapter for everyone. Greek life isn't for everyone. You make no mention of GPA, activities, work history, volunteerism nor whether any alums or members put in a word for you (networking). Those things are important for fraternity and sorority recruitment.

I'm sorry that your experience hasn't turned out the way you had hoped. Were you rushing for a fraternity or sorority?

I do recall that chapters sometimes have a cut once, always cut policy. (And I learned this the hard way.)

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My GPA is just fine, and I am involved in many extracurriculars.

When it comes to thinking about "what could be the reason?" it's hard to say without us knowing you personally. Two questions --

- Do you have any friends in any of the fraternity chapters? After being on campus for 2-3 years, you may have encountered classmates, intramural sports teammates, kids on your dorm floor, etc that are in fraternities.

- You mentioned, "I tried working on my social skills between rush cycles, but it didn't help at all. I still come off as hated and unlikeable to others, and I just don't know how to fix it." What do you mean when you say that you tried working on your social skills? It's good that you may have noticed something to improve. What was it? What makes you think you are "hated" and "unlikeable"?

2 out of the 5 things I mentioned probably aren't enough.

No, I don't have any friends

By working on social skills, I tried practicing talking, working on my tone, being more positive, and so on. I don't know why I am hated or unlikeable. I guess people just see me as weird or annoying to hang out with

I’m sorry that rush hasn’t worked out for you. Sadly, I don’t think that continuing to go to fraternity events is going to result in a different outcome for you. I don’t say this to be unkind, but because I know how difficult it must be to be rejected repeatedly.

Greek life is one of many places you can find friends. I think you should turn your attention to finding friends-even one good one-who will be there for you. It is great that you have been working on your social skills. If you haven’t already, I suggest visiting your university’s counseling center. It could be that there are social clues that you are not picking up on that are making it more difficult for you to connect with others.

Thank you for reaching out. I hope you find a place that you feel is yours.

Fly, I agree with what KD4Me said in her post. You seem to be aware that you have difficulty connecting with others and it looks like you might struggle with social cues and situations. Have you ever been tested for Asperger's? It's possible you could be on the spectrum. Knowing something like that could be very helpful and freeing for you. Definitely go to your student health or counseling center to see if this might be the case. There are a lot of things that can help!

My school's counseling is horrible. I tried to get help there numerous times, but it never worked out in the end. My state doesn't really have any accessible resources for autism testing either. I can't find a place to get tested even after years of intense research

Contact your state affiliate of the Autism Society. There is one in every state.

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Now to address this thread.

You went around telling women they deserved to be sexually assaulted. You repeatedly fantasized about calling the police to bust college parties. You badmouthed every fraternity at UCLA on dozens of platforms for YEARS. You bragged about physically assaulting your mother. Even now, you still create multiple accounts and post dozens of crazy threads on Reddit EVERY SINGLE DAY. You are a terrible person and somehow an even more annoying one to boot.

Despite all of this, you repeatedly try to gaslight people into thinking that you are somehow mysteriously disliked. Why would you ever think a fraternity would want you as a member? EVERYONE AT UCLA KNOWS WHO YOU ARE. Do you think this 4-year campaign of internet insanity has been anonymous? You have, by your own continued actions, become the most hated person on campus. There is not a fraternity that wants you within 100 feet of them.

Go away. Get professional help. Nobody wants to ever be associated with you so long as you continue to be a violent crazy person.

Signed,
The thousands of people who you will not leave alone.