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SWTXBelle 06-28-2012 06:37 PM

University of Texas Bid Day
 
Hey, longhorns - a friend who has a daughter going through recruitment this year has heard that moms come to bid day - is that the case?

shirley1929 06-28-2012 06:39 PM

Yes...I know of several Moms who were there last year. Both legacy and non-legacy Moms. It was that way in the 80's too. Not sure if it varies from chapter to chapter, but I know several are there.

LadyLonghorn 06-28-2012 06:52 PM

Some mothers come but they're in the minority and many are legacy moms. It definitely isn't like the places in the south where there's a big party with moms and other family members welcome and encouraged to come. The time spent at the house on bid day is minimal, with the chapters taking their new members elsewhere for fun. Moms are definitely not invited to those activities so if you're from far away it's a long trip for a short period of time. It can get a little awkward if your mom doesn't get it.

SWTXBelle 06-28-2012 08:10 PM

This is what my friend wrote:

"When we were at Orientation the other week a friend of mine was told that all the moms go to bid day to take pictures. And if you weren’t there your daughter would be the only one without her mom. I find this hard to believe but wanted to check with the pro’s to see if you knew anyone at UT and if this was true. I would not want (daughter) to be the ONLY one/"






Does it vary widely? I'm thinking the person saying this may have a daughter in one of the houses that is big on it - or maybe it's just a "take a picture" thing, and then they go?

shirley1929 06-28-2012 08:36 PM

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Originally Posted by SWTXBelle (Post 2155723)
This is what my friend wrote:

"When we were at Orientation the other week a friend of mine was told that all the moms go to bid day to take pictures. And if you weren’t there your daughter would be the only one without her mom. I find this hard to believe but wanted to check with the pro’s to see if you knew anyone at UT and if this was true. I would not want (daughter) to be the ONLY one/"


Does it vary widely? I'm thinking the person saying this may have a daughter in one of the houses that is big on it - or maybe it's just a "take a picture" thing, and then they go?

Will she be the only one? Absolutely not.

Do lots of Moms from Dallas, Houston, SA, etc... come to some of the houses? Definitely yes. There were dads, aunts, sisters there too.

Do they have a big family-style dinner like some of the Alabama (or other big school) houses? Definitely No. (unless that's changed, but based on what LL said...no)

Does it vary widely by chapter? Probably. My personal experience is coming off of a few chapters, but it was definitely a majority in terms of parents vs. non. However, there is SO much going on that day, that it's not like the NM will be sitting in a corner pouting to herself! She'll be in the photos that the moms and actives (and photographer) are taking!

ETA: I can ask my friends who were there last year (for nieces and daughters of theirs) and find out for sure on the meal/party thing, but I'm going with what LL said on a big no for that one!

33girl 06-29-2012 12:07 PM

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Originally Posted by LadyLonghorn (Post 2155695)
Some mothers come but they're in the minority and many are legacy moms. It definitely isn't like the places in the south where there's a big party with moms and other family members welcome and encouraged to come. The time spent at the house on bid day is minimal, with the chapters taking their new members elsewhere for fun. Moms are definitely not invited to those activities so if you're from far away it's a long trip for a short period of time. It can get a little awkward if your mom doesn't get it.

This sounds like maybe moms come "for their daughter" but when all the chapters leave the houses, the moms repair to the nearest alcoholic establishment together to say "thank God this is over" with a tequila shot or two.

utkdce 06-29-2012 12:28 PM

As a UT sorority alumna, mom of a recent UT sorority grad and current advisor to my chapter at UT, I just wanted to confirm the answers above. I can't speak for all chapters at UT, but some moms and other family members attend (I did), along with local alumnae, to greet the new member class and take pictures. While our chapter welcomes family members on bid day, there is no formal meal or activities planned for them.

shirley1929 06-29-2012 01:11 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl (Post 2155831)
This sounds like maybe moms come "for their daughter" but when all the chapters leave the houses, the moms repair to the nearest alcoholic establishment together to say "thank God this is over" with a tequila shot or two.

Hahaha! This is totally the case!

Ladybugmom 07-02-2012 04:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 33girl (Post 2155831)
This sounds like maybe moms come "for their daughter" but when all the chapters leave the houses, the moms repair to the nearest alcoholic establishment together to say "thank God this is over" with a tequila shot or two.


Hilarious! This is very, very true!!
My daughter went through recruitment 2 years ago and I went..mostly to be supportive to her if she needed me. Once bids are given out, the new members go to their respective houses and the moms or whomever go there too. We were given a house tour and refreshments and then left. I know that most of the chapters have bid day activites planned for the girls....this would be the time mom needs to head over to Ables and start drinking..lol

Just interested 07-03-2012 03:49 PM

Don't know quite where this fits so I'll put it here. Word on the street is that UT is expecting between 1300 and 1400 going through recruitment this year. A MAJOR increase over the past few years. Hope it comes true! If indeed it is the case, there will be some big pledge classes. I know chapter total went up this year so it appears to me the Greek Life is on the move.

goodgrief 07-10-2012 04:56 PM

I have several friends whose daughters rushed UT last year and the year before, and all of them came up for the entire week. I presume they helped them get ready and then gave them a sounding block when they got home, calmed their nerves, made sure they were properly nourished, and enjoyed the mother/daughter bonding. Most said it was the most stressful week of their lives -haha. I also saw tons of moms' photos of bid day on facebook, so I would say, yes, not only do moms come for bid day, but for the entire rush week as well.

lovespink88 07-10-2012 05:49 PM

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Originally Posted by goodgrief (Post 2157756)
I have several friends whose daughters rushed UT last year and the year before, and all of them came up for the entire week. I presume they helped them get ready and then gave them a sounding block when they got home, calmed their nerves, made sure they were properly nourished, and enjoyed the mother/daughter bonding. Most said it was the most stressful week of their lives -haha. I also saw tons of moms' photos of bid day on facebook, so I would say, yes, not only do moms come for bid day, but for the entire rush week as well.

Seriously?

Tulip86 07-10-2012 06:02 PM

Sounds heli-mom ish. What happened to just calling at the end of the night? And I'm guessing an 18 year old knows how to feed herself. Showing up for bid day to take some pictures and congratulate is one thing, but staying the week sounds like overkill in my opinion.

Titchou 07-10-2012 06:26 PM

It's in case they drop out or are released....need mama there.

arrowlady 07-11-2012 09:13 PM

Wow I can't imagine going and staying for the whole week of recruitment. Those are some really nice moms! I just hope to hear from my D during the week.


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