How do you deal with REJECTMENT
 

Hey guys! I was recently passed up for a position that I was not only overly qualified to do, but was the only one running for. I've never been in an organization that didn't see me as a valued and vital member, so having my sisters do this really hurt my feelings. I was just wondering how you guys deal with stuff like this...

If I knew what "rejectment" was, maybe I could help...

And how is it possible that you didn't get it if you had no opponent?

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if they vote no confidence maybe?

There's a definish chance that we've come to the point of ridculum when people start using words like "rejectment".

You're right, but I commend the OP for having the braverism to open up to strangers like she has.

Write ins. People dislike the person the nom com put on slate and write in someone else. Which is why slating (unless it's a huge chapter) is fundamentally stupid.

If the position was one which requires proper spelling and grammar, I can see why your sisters did what they did.

It was very couragement.

We don't have near enough context to render any sort of useful advice. Heck, I lost an election for President once when I was by all accounts far and away the most qualified for the job (in my mind). My brothers didn't agree, I ended up as treasurer for a year and that was pretty much it. Life goes on and I'm still very involved with my chapter even as an alumnus as the chapter adviser. Try not to be hurt and try to figure out for yourself why you were not chosen for this position. Maybe it's not personal? Maybe it is. Either way, your focus should be making things right, fixing yourself or whatever it is you did and if you're up to it, throw your hat into the ring again. Do not be petty, do not seek revenge. This is an opportunity for you to fix whatever is wrong.

Yes, business shouldn't be taken personally. People can absolutely love you as a friend and sister, but think you would be an inadequate president (or other office).

Someone can run for president, and think they'd win because of the assumed support of others, but the day-off people can write-in someone else. It can be surprising and maybe hurtful initially. You move forward and handle business.

While I'm not sure what Rejectment is...

Think of this like Membership Selection. A PNM never really knows why they were cut. You will never really know why you were not elected. But keep your head up, if your sisters see that you can take this in stride, then their opinion of you will only go up.

And if you are overqualified, then maybe you need to get involved in other things that show how qualified you really are. Join a committee or two. Just because you think you are overqualified, doesn't mean your sisters see that side of you.

Seems like someone else had better strategery.

D'oh! agzg stole mine! ;)

seriously,

your sisters might think you're great but wanted to give someone else (even an unidentified person) a chance to do the job. this doesn't mean they're not confident in your abilities, but that maybe they wanted to offer an opportunity for growth & development to someone else.

Are you involved in a lot of other activities? maybe they thought you wouldn't have time to devote the necessary attention to this position. as previous posters have said, get involved on a committee - but learn to lay back and let someone else lead.

Birds of a feather, and all that? (Or in this case, featheryer?)

They may still see you as a valued member, just not in that position. Buck up, put your big girl panties on, don't whine or moan or be witchy to the girl that did get the position. And don't bug your sisters asking why you didn't get it. It doesn't matter anymore, it is done. Be gracious. Move on to other opportunities.

I've seen many officer elections over the years and can honestly say that the most qualified candidates don't always get elected. Some of the reasons I've seen:

- Candidate was already active in a ton of campus orgs, clubs, challenging course load/major, had a job, etc. Chapter members wanted someone with more time to dedicate to their org.

- Candidates experience was primarily external, meaning on campus orgs/clubs. Chapter members wanted someone who was active, committed, and proven herself within the Chapter. In addition, members may not know about someone's external experiences while they know exactly who always shows up at the house for work.

- Chapter members voted for who was more popular instead of who was more qualified. These are 18-21 year olds and they don't always see the big picture.

- Candidate knows she's the most qualified and got cocky. Chapter members thought electing her would fuel her ego and she needed to be taken down a notch.

- (How shall I put this delicately?) Chapter members voted for a less qualified candidate who was more "polished and personable". After all the Pres is also the official public face of the Chapter.

I think they is.

LOL

I see you're channeling PB :p

Zillini makes some great points. And sometimes, like with membership selection/recruitment, the chapter/nominating committee/etc sees a piece of the picture that you don't. A couple years in, I was slated for a position and when they called me, I literally asked "Really? Are you sure?" I was completely surprised, it wasn't something I expressed interest in, and I wasn't sure it was right for me. But utlimately they were right and it was my favorite role as an officer.

Perhaps the chapter saw something in someone else that you or maybe even she didn't know was there. Or maybe it came down to involvement (too much or too little, internal or external) or popularity. We really can't know. The best thing to do, assuming you still want to stay involved, is try to let it pass and give your all to whatever comes next. Good luck to you!

I just went into a "funkitation" :confused: and then transferred to a different school. That will teach them to not elect me VP!!!:rolleyes:

Back in the day (I can't believe I graduated 10 years ago) we had a huge problem with cliques in our chapter. I will admit that the girls at that time that were part of the executive board were all part of the same clique and would slate other girls of the same clique into the positions for the following year even though there may have been members that were more qualified.

I believe the technical term for clique issues is "cliquetationism". :)

Sounds like a bunch of trickeration going on.

You all are being so mean to the OP, maybe you just misunderestimated her!

What I was trying to explain was a Cliqueocracy.

Stop being such a cliquetator.

Oh, LMAO to this thread!

wait, so no one has thrown down a TEITY on this?

and i'm really not sure how to vote on this one. but i'm leaning towards "mess."

http://www.vawatchdog.org/08/pix08/bad-grammar.jpg

i had to, lol.

i hate you! lmao!

Speaking of rejectment. :( :o

This thread has replaced my quote in knight shadow's signature.

Aw, I'm sorry, DrPhil! I'm sure he didn't mean to be injuronious to you.

(but that's damn funny, K_S! ;))

Wait, don't you mean his signatorium?

Don't be so negativistic or depressionated, I'm sure he will find another one of your estimated quotes to use some other time.

*reads k_s' signaturiom....busts out in laughtering*

That's what happened when I was slated for marshal. We were a brand new chapter (just colonized), so I was pretty offended to be nominated for that and had no idea what it was. I thought I would be slated for VP of something, but I ended up LOVING being the marshal.

Boo to you for the seriousity of you responsitness.

Seriusli