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Originally Posted by SigKapSweetie

And for groups that aren't making quota, I think it's a moot issue because they still have 'spots' regardless of whether the PNM accepts the bid or not. I've always felt like it's more of an issue that a disappointed/negative/miserable PNM brings down the rest of the women in her pledge class as well as the chapter members, rather than an issue that she is 'taking up a spot', especially because this seems to come up more often with smaller chapters that have other 'spots' available. Just my $0.02.

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

It's kinda like telling a child that won't eat her peas that there are starving children in Africa, ie. Be grateful for what you have.

Originally Posted by Jen

I think a lot of times, coming from a PNM it's a way to say "I didn't like that group and want to drop them so I didn't put them on my pref card" without everyone actually hearing that. It sounds way more self sacrificing to say "I just didn't want to take someone else's spot."

Yes, yes, and yes.