[honeychile]

Okay, here's my point of view from the long term commitment side of life.

My DH is the Sports Information Director at his (D-3) university. There was no Greek system at his university. I am an active alumna of my sorority. We dated a long time before we got married, and yet, I still didn't realize how complex his schedule would be.

After Recruitment, it will be YOUR schedule that will dominate your relationship, not hers. Sure, she'll have activities, but I guarantee that you will have many, many more.

Y'all need to sit down with a calendar - no, make that two calendars! - and put all activities in which either of you are involved and go from there. She will need you as an escape valve, when the whole world of sorority gets a little overbearing, and you will need her to maintain your sanity.

With the right combination of self-sufficiency and unselfish behavior, this is a completely workable relationship. However, remember that any good relationship relies on the willingness for both parties to work on it. Good luck!