[33girl]

Your friendship is already damaged. I wouldn't be surprised if you were a "concession" and there's someone in the pipeline (her choice, of course) in case you turn it down.

Tell him in person. If he asks why, be honest and say you truly don't feel welcome where she is concerned. I mean....you guys are not 21. Anyone who tries to cut out their partner's friends at this point in life is bad news (unless it's a legit reason like substance abuse) and maybe this will wake him up.

One of my more popular and rowdy sisters got married and a group of us went for the wedding. During the reception they showed a video with their separate lives up to the wedding and then them together. There were NO photos of her with sisters at all - even though there were two tables full of us. We were all offended and had no doubt it was the groom's doing. She is no longer married to this douche, thank heaven.