If you absolutely know that someone will be a problem, don't feel bad about blocking their membership. Last year, my AOII daughter and I witnessed some very disturbing behavior on the part of a PNM and we both sent no-recs to the school she'd be at. (Let me insert here that I've only felt upset enough by a PNM's behavior to write 2 no-recs in 30 years.)
We debated whether to alert the women we knew in the other sororities but didn't. Looking back, I guess we should have because she managed to pledge a group and put them through hell and was finally depledged right before initiation.
Some people think that everyone deserves a chance. Why? If a PNM has proven herself to be psycho or a skank or whatever, why should a sorority be urged to suffer through behavior like that?
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