I think that what everybody is saying makes sense.
I suppose that as an alumna, if someone approached me about alumnae initiation and I didn't think she'd be a good fit, I would tell her to contact headquarters -- which is no different from what I would tell *anyone* because that is the first step. If I *really* had reason to be concerned, I would probably contact the local alumnae chapter where she lives to give them, tactfully, the scoop. If it was *my* chapter she was interested in, I'm not really sure how I'd handle it. Although I'm usually a pretty blunt person, I'd have a really hard time telling someone that she wouldn't be a sister...
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