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Originally Posted by SydneyK
I agree with all of this.
It's the girl's rush, not her parents'. I have no idea how this practice came to be, but if it were ever suggested at a school where I was advising, I would do everything in my power to keep it from coming to fruition.
Begin heli-parenting and university response to heli-parenting rant...
I remember when universities considered themselves the stepping stone between being under a parent's thumb and being thrown to the wolves of the adult world. They allowed students to make mistakes and face consequences, they allowed students to find their own paths, they allowed students to decide whether to succeed or to fail. And now, in part (I think) due to the increase in heli-parenting, institutions have gotten soft. It's becoming a cycle that's hard to break. Early on in the heli-parenting years, it was relatively easy as a professor to say to a parent, "Your daughter is the one whose grade is on the line - I'd be happy to have this conversation with her. But I can't have it with you." Now, universities are too worried about not getting phone calls from irate parents to support their faculty in upholding FERPA. And now that parents are used to being overly-involved, it's only becoming more prevalent.
Let our kids grow up. Let them make their own decisions. For crying out loud, let our daughters be the first to find out which sorority has offered them membership. This just really baffles me.
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I was horrified when my friend had to jump through hoops to get the administration at her freshman daughter's school to evict her roomate's mom from their dorm room. The mother had been sleeping on the floor for over three weeks to help her daughter adjust to college life. It's a small religious college and both my friend and her husband are notable alums, not some big bad faceless state school. They were continually told to be patient and it was only when they threatened to pull their daughter out of school and discontinue some major financial support that the administration finally forced mom out of the room.
