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Originally posted by starang21
nah, no point in letting them down easy, tell them the blunt truth and call it a day. what's the point of being nice and 2 faced to someone you really don't like? just let them know they're wack and move on. after a while they'll move on, too.
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I don't agree with that at all, and here's why: If you are brutally honest with a girl who you KNOW is not going to be extended a bid because of a very valid reason, then you will most likely embarrass and offend her. If you offend her, then you increase the likelihood of her causing problems for your organization in the future.
Generally, sororities want girls to have a favorable impression of our organizations -- ALL girls, not just the ones that we invite into our sisterhood. If we are rude to someone, then you can bet that the girl isn't going to leave our house with anything good to say about our GLO in the future. However, if we are polite and treat her nicely while she is a visitor to our rush parties, then we give her no "ammunition" with which to hold a grudge. Sure, she may be very disappointed in not receiving a bid. But that disappointment is nothing compared to the resentment that she would harbor if she was told point blank that she wouldn't be invited to pledge because of her personality, reputation, etc.
Also, something else to consider is that the girl in question may not be a candidate for pledgeship, but that she may have a friend or classmate who is. You certainly don't want her to give anyone else a poor impression of your group because some of those other acquaintances of hers may be ideal candidates for your GLO.
