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Originally Posted by FlyMcFly
I rushed at least four different times now. I know people are going to ask me why I rushed so many times, but I really want to be in greek life. It just frustrates me why I keep getting rejected.
I been to basically every single chapter at my school, and I been told no by all of them. I been respectful, well-dressed, confident, and so on. I wasn't being creepy. Yet, I keep getting rejected. Even the chapters that are low on members rejected me. I am that undesired, and it really hurts me emotionally. It does make me feel like there is something wrong with me.
I tried working on my social skills between rush cycles, but it didn't help at all. I still come off as hated and unlikeable to others, and I just don't know how to fix it. It frustrates me when people say things like "there is a chapter for everyone", yet I been told no by everyone.
I am going to be a senior next year, so it is all over for me. It is just so frustrating when people lied to me and told me that joining greek life was a great way to make friends or improve your social skills or whatever only when that wasn't the case in practice.
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When it comes to thinking about "what could be the reason?" it's hard to say without us knowing you personally. Two questions --
- Do you have any friends in any of the fraternity chapters? After being on campus for 2-3 years, you may have encountered classmates, intramural sports teammates, kids on your dorm floor, etc that are in fraternities.
- You mentioned, "I tried working on my social skills between rush cycles, but it didn't help at all. I still come off as hated and unlikeable to others, and I just don't know how to fix it." What do you mean when you say that you tried working on your social skills? It's good that you may have noticed something to improve. What was it? What makes you think you are "hated" and "unlikeable"?
