What to tell overconfident PNMs

chitownxo · #1 06-21-2007, 01:05 AM

One of the young ladies I work with is planning on rushing this fall (she'll be a freshman). She has spent several hours looking at sorority websites to figure out which sorority she is going to join. She's mentioned several chapters that she thinks are beneath her, as she is "blonde and petite" and is sure the top chapter will snatch her up. In fact, she's bought some t-shirts with "her" letters on them already. A couple of us have tried to tell her that's it's a mutual selection process (you may have decided you're a perfect XYZ, but that doesn't mean XYZ will agree). She just looks blankly at us and says, "But I'm blonde and petite." Sometimes you've just got let someone do what they want...and be very glad that your sorority is not at her school.

BabyPiNK_FL · #2 06-21-2007, 01:22 AM

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Originally Posted by chitownxo

One of the young ladies I work with is planning on rushing this fall (she'll be a freshman). She has spent several hours looking at sorority websites to figure out which sorority she is going to join. She's mentioned several chapters that she thinks are beneath her, as she is "blonde and petite" and is sure the top chapter will snatch her up. In fact, she's bought some t-shirts with "her" letters on them already. A couple of us have tried to tell her that's it's a mutual selection process (you may have decided you're a perfect XYZ, but that doesn't mean XYZ will agree). She just looks blankly at us and says, "But I'm blonde and petite." Sometimes you've just got let someone do what they want...and be very glad that your sorority is not at her school.

Did you explain to her that looks aren't everything. Maybe you should go there and tell her that personality means a lot and right now her's is severely lacking...(oops! did i say that?!)

chitownxo · #3 06-21-2007, 01:25 AM

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Did you explain to her that looks aren't everything. Maybe you should go there and tell her that personality means a lot and right now her's is severely lacking...(oops!)

Oh, lordy have I tried, but she's not having any. She told me that I'm just jealous because, since I'm pregnant, I'm not as petite as she is, and I'm trying to bring her down. Yeah, sure. I'm so mean.

BabyPiNK_FL · #4 06-21-2007, 01:33 AM

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Oh, lordy have I tried, but she's not having any. She told me that I'm just jealous because, since I'm pregnant, I'm not as petite as she is, and I'm trying to bring her down. Yeah, sure. I'm so mean.

Why! The nerve, if anything she should be jealous of you! I mean, you're already in a sorority (pregnancy or not)! I've met girls like her, I think we all have and it's not usually pleasant for someone to come to your group and tell you to basically throw your MSS out the window because she is "IT!" Make sure to keep some tissues handy in the office, this one sounds like a real doozie! Keep us updated!

AlexMack · #5 06-21-2007, 01:59 AM

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Originally Posted by chitownxo

Oh, lordy have I tried, but she's not having any. She told me that I'm just jealous because, since I'm pregnant, I'm not as petite as she is, and I'm trying to bring her down. Yeah, sure. I'm so mean.

That's okay, you know you'll have the last laugh.

SWTXBelle · #6 06-21-2007, 08:20 AM

Ummmm . . . do you know any alums of her "first choice" sorority??? You might give them a "head's up".
And jealous because you are currently not petite?? Let's see - you are about to bring a new life into the world - SHE should be jealous! Congratulations!

chitownxo · #7 06-21-2007, 11:11 AM

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Ummmm . . . do you know any alums of her "first choice" sorority??? You might give them a "head's up".
And jealous because you are currently not petite?? Let's see - you are about to bring a new life into the world - SHE should be jealous! Congratulations!

Oh, I've got a great way to let her future sisters know. Another one of our co-workers is hosting a BBQ next month, and Ms. Blonde and Petite has asked if she can wear "her" letters. My friend happily agreed, and we're both planning on bringing our cameras and taking a few pictures.

33girl · #8 06-21-2007, 11:16 AM

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Oh, I've got a great way to let her future sisters know. Another one of our co-workers is hosting a BBQ next month, and Ms. Blonde and Petite has asked if she can wear "her" letters. My friend happily agreed, and we're both planning on bringing our cameras and taking a few pictures.

Wow, you are the awesome.

If I have any similar jobs, I know who to call.

PenguinTrax · #9 06-21-2007, 02:51 PM

MEEEOWW.

TrueBlueKappa · #10 06-21-2007, 03:31 PM

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Originally Posted by chitownxo

One of the young ladies I work with is planning on rushing this fall (she'll be a freshman). She has spent several hours looking at sorority websites to figure out which sorority she is going to join. She's mentioned several chapters that she thinks are beneath her, as she is "blonde and petite" and is sure the top chapter will snatch her up. In fact, she's bought some t-shirts with "her" letters on them already. A couple of us have tried to tell her that's it's a mutual selection process (you may have decided you're a perfect XYZ, but that doesn't mean XYZ will agree). She just looks blankly at us and says, "But I'm blonde and petite." Sometimes you've just got let someone do what they want...and be very glad that your sorority is not at her school.

Can you please make a recruitment thread for this girl??? That's one recruitment story I'd love to read!

cuteASAbug · #11 06-21-2007, 03:34 PM

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Can you please make a recruitment thread for this girl??? That's one recruitment story I'd love to read!

I second this.

AlphaFrog · #12 06-21-2007, 03:34 PM

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Can you please make a recruitment thread for this girl??? That's one recruitment story I'd love to read!

I don't think there'd be much content.

Round 1: Visited all houses. Was recognized from photos.
Later that night: Phone call.
End of story.

SWTXBelle · #13 06-21-2007, 04:22 PM

I'd still like to read it! It's kinda like when the car that goes speeding past you ACTUALLY gets pulled over by the police!

ErinIsBadNews · #14 06-21-2007, 05:32 PM

Can alumni write negative recs or do we usually just try to concentrate on every PNM's positives attributes?

It would be nice knowing who we don’t want in our chapters without having to sacrifice not inviting back other great girls. I know this would probably never ever work but it would be nice.

dgdramadawg · #15 06-21-2007, 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by ErinIsBadNews

Can alumni write negative recs or do we usually just try to concentrate on every PNM's positives attributes?

It would be nice knowing who we don’t want in our chapters without having to sacrifice not inviting back other great girls. I know this would probably never ever work but it would be nice.

I know that multiple NPC orgs have a spot on the form for recs to check whether the PNM is recommended. It is totally possible to write a "negative rec" if you check that the PNM is not recommended. Why concentrate on the positive if the PNM is someone you wouldn't want for a sister?