Most Important Words of Advice

[KSUViolet06]

Another related piece of advice:

Sleep on it.

Mad because you don't have a full schedule? Mad because your top choice cut you right before Pref?

Don't make any decisions right then. Sleep on it.

You'd be surprised how differently you feel about a situation after getting a full night's rest.

[KSUViolet06]

Last one for now:

That roomie you just met that is going through recruitment with you? What works for her may not work for you. So don't feel like because you are roommates that you need to be in the same chapter.

This also goes for your BFF from HS.

Make the best decision for you. Not your hallmates, roommate, best friend, etc.

Chances are very good that the friends you have now won't be the ones you have in a year or two. Do you really want to base your decisions in recruitment on them?

[LSuz19]

Go in with the attitude of not caring who invites you back after the first two rounds. Even if you have favorites after round one (which you really shouldn't), tell yourself you don't care if they drop you. Just be grateful for any invites you get back!

[DubaiSis]

Try try try to live in the moment. We have all gotten so used to having a conversation while texting while watching TV while eating dinner that it can be hard to do just one thing at a time, but this is the time to get rid of everything in the world except that one girl you are talking to right at this moment.

[MaggieXi]

For every negative you come up with (or hear) try to find a positive. Each house has something great to offer.

And this is your recrutiment, no one else's (not your moms, your sisters, your bff, your roomates or your brother's girlfriend's cousin's half sisters). Listening to your instincts is the most important.

Take stock in who you are. It's ok not to be or be comfortable with the perfectly polished girl in the "top tier" that "everyone" else wants.

[KSUViolet06]

I mean this in the nicest way possible.

You may have been special in your hometown.

You're not special in recruitment.

So please use summer to get over your high school specialness.

What I mean is, don't think "Oh, I'm getting into the top house on campus, I was Homecoming Queen. Duh!"

That's great, but if we're dealing with a competitive recruitment, you're probably not the only 4.0 Homecoming Queen. So please get over it. Sooner rather than later.

[Cheerio]

Trust your Recruitment Counselor, especially if you aren't familiar with the recruitment process.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by Cheerio

Trust your Recruitment Counselor, especially if you aren't familiar with the recruitment process.

Sigh. I wish this were good advice, but SO MANY RC's get SO MUCH wrong.

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Sigh. I wish this were good advice, but SO MANY RC's get SO MUCH wrong.

Yep, it appears common enough on GC that recruitment counselors either give out incorrect advice or that the PNMs don't understand what they are told.

[Cheerio]

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

Yep, it appears common enough on GC that recruitment counselors either give out incorrect advice or that the PNMs don't understand what they are told.

Mine was extremely helpful. But that was back in the day...

Perhaps all incoming freshman women should be told, "We've done away with RCs, they never know what they're doing anyway. Go read Greekchat, those people are awesome and knowledgeable. You'll do fine."

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by Cheerio

Mine was extremely helpful. But that was back in the day...

Perhaps all incoming freshman women should be told, "We've done away with RCs, they never know what they're doing anyway. Go read Greekchat, those people are awesome and knowledgeable. You'll do fine."

Can you imagine what that would lead to?

My RC was very helpful too. Most probably are.

But if the people posting here are accurately reporting what they were told, there are a bunch of campuses not following NPC guidelines and/or a significant number of RCs who give people wrong advice about how bid matching works, the consequences of ISP (is it Intentional Single Preference or Single Intentional Preference SIP for "suiciding" these days?) or the conditions under which you're eligible for COB or snap bids.

Fortunately, I think a relatively small percentage of PNMs are ever affected negatively. But you would have no way of knowing if you were one of them until after you listed a chapter you didn't want on your bid card because you'd been told that maximizing your options gave you a better shot at your top group. Ugh.

[happilyanchored]

Something I learned first-hand: don't judge the other girls in your Gamma Chi/Rho Chi group by their covers. For all you know, one or more of them could be your sister(s) by the end of the week. And also some of the most amazing people ever.

One girl in my group who I knew tangentially through others not only ended up joining the same sorority as me, but also eventually ended up in the same pledge family! My first impressions of her were definitely wrong and I am so happy to call her my sister and close friend today.

[gee_ess]

Start fresh at each round.

On pref night, tell the house you like, that you like them. this is not the time to play hard to get.

[GammaPhi88]

Be nice to your Rho Gammas. Don't speak badly about any sorority towards them. It is okay to talk with them about having a tough time or being upset generally with your schedule, but don't say anything mean about any house. In a perfect world, you could be less filtered and say what you want. But it isn't a perfect world, and you never know how seriously they take disaffiliaton. So don't shoot yourself in the foot.

Also, leggings are not pants.

[keyplayer]

The one thing I can say is DON'T QUIT! My top choice dropped me right before pref when I went through recruitment last year and I thank the Lord that they did. I know now that they are not the house for me and I ended up exactly where I was supposed to. It's true that when a door closes, a window opens.