Are some people just not meant to be in sororities? - Page 2

Ladybugmom · #16 09-03-2012, 07:21 PM

Im rooting for you!! As others have said, it only takes 1 and it sounds like you have an open mind. Hang in there and keep us posted. Good Luck!

Wishful · #17 09-03-2012, 07:28 PM

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Originally Posted by summer_gphib

THIS!!!^^^^^^

I wish you the best of luck. Don't give up on the process. Maybe you aren't meant to be in a sorority, but at least you are TRYING. Unfortunately great girls fall through the cracks. It's NOT a perfect system... but we wish you the best, and truly hope you find a home! If not, try other clubs and organizations!

Thank you! It is not a perfect system whatsoever. My friend in a sorority at a different school has been trying to comfort me all day with how flawed the system is.

Wishful · #18 09-03-2012, 07:34 PM

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Originally Posted by DubaiSis

First, we're not the best choice for helping you get clarity. Ask your rho chi or a good and painfully honest friend. How are you at gauging social cues? Do you make people uncomfortable when you're trying to be funny? Do you dress obnoxiously when you think you're being different? Do you have bad breath? These are the kinds of things that can REALLY affect your rush and you might just not be seeing it. None of these may be true, but probably there's something about yourself that you're just not willing to face just yet.

Secondly, nobody said you were last on anyone's list. Who knows? A chapter may have been able to invite back 100 girls and you were #101. or #600. We just don't know and that's why we all advise you to try not to obsess about it too much. I know, I know. Easier said than done.

Lol yeah, I know you guys aren't the best choice. I see GCers post all the time how you can't give advice because you are not the ones rushing the PNM. I was just asking for some insight on whether or not some people were just not meant to be in a sorority...or just not get a bid for that matter.

I asked my two Pi Chis...they don't understand either. One of them even said that she was very disappointed in her chapter for how they pass up on such great girls. Both of them said how they were shocked when they saw my schedule. I mentioned that I was released from the process last year, and they didn't understand that either.

Yes, I've thought about all those things. My friend (goes to a school BIG on greek life and she's in a sorority) has been approving ALL of my outfits. If anything, I thought I was awkward and shy last year because I was a freshman. However, some of the sororities must have saw something in me that I didn't see and kept inviting me back (minus the last day). That is not the case this year. At the first round, I felt confident and so comfortable. I was surprised at how outgoing and easy it was to talk to everyone. And I know it's not my breath....our Pi Chis have us pop a mint before every chapter.

Thanks for all your reasons though! They were actually interesting to hear that sororities judge on things like that during recruitment.

Wishful · #19 09-03-2012, 07:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Ladybugmom

Im rooting for you!! As others have said, it only takes 1 and it sounds like you have an open mind. Hang in there and keep us posted. Good Luck!

Thank you! Few more days till we see my fate...

DubaiSis · #20 09-03-2012, 07:44 PM

Well Wishful, it sounds like you've done everything you can do, including looking inward. Just hold your head up and be positive and hopefully it will all work out great. I do wish you the very best of luck and yes, please share your story when it's done.

Wishful · #21 09-03-2012, 07:50 PM

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Originally Posted by DubaiSis

Well Wishful, it sounds like you've done everything you can do, including looking inward. Just hold your head up and be positive and hopefully it will all work out great. I do wish you the very best of luck and yes, please share your story when it's done.

Thank you! Just gonna try to be positive and hope that things work out for the best.

AZTheta · #22 09-03-2012, 08:03 PM

I am a believer in positive thinking and in visualizing; I also believe that if you put out negative energy, it will affect you in negative ways. This is my way of saying "be positive, please relax, and let go of the fear." We all say the same thing: it only takes one. Know that! Believe it! Let the story play out now... and I'm sending positive intentions your way.

Wishful · #23 09-03-2012, 08:05 PM

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Originally Posted by AzTheta

I am a believer in positive thinking and in visualizing; I also believe that if you put out negative energy, it will affect you in negative ways. This is my way of saying "be positive, please relax, and let go of the fear." We all say the same thing: it only takes one. Know that! Believe it! Let the story play out now... and I'm sending positive intentions your way.

Thank you! I'm trying to visualize the positive. The potential to "run home" is getting me through recruitment.

ADPiEE · #24 09-03-2012, 09:25 PM

How are your grades? I skimmed through your posts and didn't see anything. Grades can be a huge factor at some schools.

Wishful · #25 09-03-2012, 09:32 PM

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Originally Posted by ADPiEE

How are your grades? I skimmed through your posts and didn't see anything. Grades can be a huge factor at some schools.

I have well over a 3.5 and a leadership role on campus. At my school, the GPA requirements for a current college student looking to join a sorority can range anywhere from 2.5-3.0. Those GPA requirements are a little stricter for high school students, but my GPA last year for recruitment was a 4.4 (3.8 unweighted).

KSUViolet06 · #26 09-03-2012, 10:09 PM

The fact that you are fretting over being cut may very well show in your conversations (it's hard to get to know someone who is super nervous.) Relax.

33girl · #27 09-04-2012, 09:55 AM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

The fact that you are fretting over being cut may very well show in your conversations (it's hard to get to know someone who is super nervous.) Relax.

Exactly. Nervous people make other people nervous. I'm guessing from your description of your school that there are sorority members who are TWICE as worried about recruitment as you are.

Come here and word vomit all you want, but be confident, interested and kind the minute you walk into those parties.

AOII Angel · #28 09-04-2012, 10:21 AM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

Exactly. Nervous people make other people nervous. I'm guessing from your description of your school that there are sorority members who are TWICE as worried about recruitment as you are.

Come here and word vomit all you want, but be confident, interested and kind the minute you walk into those parties.

I totally agree. You may totally turn people off if you go in to parties a cowering mess of poor self esteem. You are good enough. You are smart enough. Recruitment IS imperfect. Great girls are released every year that just dont shine in this environment. Don't shoot yourself in the foot by freaking out. Good luck!

Wishful · #29 09-04-2012, 12:34 PM

To everyone above, I try to be calm and confident going into the houses. There really is no awkward pauses or word vomit on my part. Maybe the girls pick up on something about me that I don't though.

Thanks to everyone for being so supportive towards me! I really didn't expect any responses from this.

DeltaBetaBaby · #30 09-04-2012, 12:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Wishful

To everyone above, I try to be calm and confident going into the houses. There really is no awkward pauses or word vomit on my part. Maybe the girls pick up on something about me that I don't though.

Thanks to everyone for being so supportive towards me! I really didn't expect any responses from this.

When do you get your next round of invitations?