Recommendation Caution to PNM's

[DeltaBetaBaby]

I believe that threads are stickied by moderators.

[HotDamnImAPhiMu]

I don't think the problem is that no one realizes who stickies posts.

I think the problem is no one can figure out why you'd jump in the middle of a ridiculously polite thread that was running quite nicely on its own with a nasty comment, then act like all you did was provide much-needed information to the conversation.

[ztawinthropgirl]

Well, back to the regularly scheduled thread:

I received a PM about giving a recommendation and I was a little suspicious about it because it sounded a little bit like a mass PM. So I don't think Gamma Phi was the only sorority hit with this request for a recommendation.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Another note to PNM's...

If you know an XYZ alumna, and you need an XYZ rec, ASK HER. Getting your recs from GCers should be your second option. GCers or local alums that they put you in touch with may write you a rec, but it is much harder for them than a woman who has known you/your family for years and can really vouch for your character.

[ThetaPrincess24]

PNM's................please do not go about emailing alumnae chapters of sororities asking for recommendations or finding out who the Advisory Board Chairman is and emailing her about recommendations(unless you know her or people--in particularly the president--of the alumnae groups PERSONALLY)!!!!!!!!

[suwhitestl]

Don't forget to send a thank you to the member that wrote you the recommendation and took out time to help you.

AND -- please remember to let people know what your results were from recruitment. We want to know if you joined the greek community!

[Jill1228]

THANK YOU! I was just thinking about this yesterday! If we cared to take the time out to write the rec, at least have the courtesy to let us know where you went. You don't have to post it on here but you can at least email the person who wrote you the rec!

If you didn't go with our group, let us know, we ain't mad at cha ...it's all good!

If you dropped out of recruitment, let us know!

Just common courtesy!

And to the chapters that got the recs, at least write a Thank you note acknowledging that you received our recs!

How hard is that?

ETA: out of the recs I wrote, 2 girls never got back to me...funny they were both from the same school that never acknowledged that they received their recs!

Originally posted by suwhitestl
Don't forget to send a thank you to the member that wrote you the recommendation and took out time to help you.

AND -- please remember to let people know what your results were from recruitment. We want to know if you joined the greek community!

[B_R_E_A_N_N_A]

I am just wondering if the PNMs are asking for recs from people they don't know. I know with my chapter (small school, small chapter) we only pay attention to recs that are very personal. How can you write a rec for someone that you don't really know? That just seems weird to me. I wouldn't read it to my chapter.

[DolphinChicaDDD]

Originally posted by Jill1228
ETA: out of the recs I wrote, 2 girls never got back to me...funny they were both from the same school that never acknowledged that they received their recs!

Out of the about, oh 8-10 I wrote, I had ONE girl tell me the results...and ONE sent a thank you email. It left quite a bitter taste in my mouth, so honestly, I don't know if I want to devote my spare time to write recs anymore.

[thetagammachica]

excuse my ignorence, what is a rec... ( I am assuming recomendation).... but why would you need it as a PNM

[TxAPhi]

Originally posted by thetagammachica
excuse my ignorence, what is a rec... ( I am assuming recomendation).... but why would you need it as a PNM

Here is a way of explaining recs and who writes them for PNMs and why:

What are Alumnae Panhellenics? Alumnae/Area/Hometown Panhellenics: These groups are community based organizations, affiliated with the National Panhellenic Conference, whose membership is composed of representative alumnae from NPC member group fraternities. These groups promote the philanthropic efforts of member organizations, promote the advantages of sorority membership, and host educational/informational sessions to promote Greek Life to women who are going to be attending a college or university. These educational/informational meetings are held at the discretion of the individual Alumnae Panhellenic, but usually take place in the spring of the year. The purpose of these meetings will inform a woman of the opportunities for Greek Life at various universities. A form will be distributed to complete and return to a designated person on that Alumna Panhellenic. This form will be made available to the sorority alumnae groups in that area by the Alumnae Panhellenic. The Alumnae Panhellenic does not guarantee that by completing the form, recommendations will be written on a woman's behalf or that a woman will be invited to particular parties during formal recruitment. This form only serves to alert the alumnae in that area that a woman has registered with the Alumnae Panhellenic and have indicated they will be participating in formal recruitment at a particular university. It is then up to an individual sorority alumnae organization to follow-up with a potential member if they need anymore information in addition to what is listed on the form.

More about Alumane Panhelenics
http://www.npcwomen.org/alumnae/a_overview.php


And here is an example from a large greek university - http://deanofstudents.utexas.edu/gle...pc_alumnae.php

[TxAPhi]

The idea of recs may be a foreign concept without some context.

This website for the Fort Bend Co (Texas) Alumnae Panhellenic will give you a feel for what Recruitment is like at some southern and "quasi-southern" (for lack of a better term) universities.


http://www.fortbendpanhellenic.org/

Click on "Recruitment" at the top
Then scroll down to the "Table of Contents"
If you read through each of these in order, you will get a picture of the entirely unique culture of southern recruitment, recs, legacies, etc.

[tcsparky]

WOW!! I just spent an hour on the Fort Bend website looking at their recruitment workbook. I don't think they left anything out. It was fantastic. Everyone going through recruitment might want to take a look, even if you're not going to a big college, a "Southern" college, or a competitive recruitment. It was absolutely fabulous.

[AGDLynn]

I don't know why West Georgia does this but the rec. application basically only gives her name, grades, high school and activities.

It's hard to find someone to do a recommendation when you don't know where the pnm lives! At least if the parents name were given, you could narrow down possibilities.

Any other school do this?

ETA: Send an inquiry to the Greek Life Office who said to make recommendations (no pun lol) on changes we might need to help chapters know pnms better.

[starburst21]

Originally posted by ThetaPrincess24
PNM's................please do not go about emailing alumnae chapters of sororities asking for recommendations or finding out who the Advisory Board Chairman is and emailing her about recommendations(unless you know her or people--in particularly the president--of the alumnae groups PERSONALLY)!!!!!!!!

I guess at my school we aren't sent an incredible amount of recs (I think there were maybe six last year), so I don't really know all about it, but I thought that was the kind of thing people were supposed to do if they didn't know any alumnae themselves.