Rush - What to NOT do or say - Page 9

KSUViolet06 · #**121** 08-15-2005, 08:54 AM

*DON'T go into recruitment ONLY WANTING XYZ and letting EVERY OTHER CHAPTER KNOW IT. You could be shooting yourself in the foot. If you tell EVERYONE, that you're "Going to get a bid from XYZ b/c blah blah blah", other chapters will think you're not interested and cut you. That puts you in a very tough spot if XYZ chooses not to invite you back. You'd have no invites. So keep your mind open about other groups.

*Don't insult other PNM's. That's just rude.

*The internet is a great tool, but DON'T JUDGE A CHAPTER BY IT'S WEBSITE.

*While it's AWESOME to have some prior knowledge about the sororities, don't be a "know it all".

*DON'T FORGET to have a support group. Whether it's a friend or your family, have someone you can talk to about your experiences during this time. If you get cut heavy or don't get a bid at all, it's nice to have people to comfort you. If you do, then you have people to share the news with!

KSUViolet06 · #**122** 08-16-2005, 07:35 PM

*DO NOT CHEW GUM DURING PARTIES. How is anyone supposed to hear/understand you when you're chomping your Winterfresh like a horse?

*DON'T ATTEMPT to leave in the middle of a party. No matter HOW much you just aren't feeling the chapter. That is INFINITELY rude to the sorority.

honeychile · #**123** 08-16-2005, 11:57 PM

One exception to the above: if you are about to be sick to your stomach or have severe intestinal distress, quietly ask to use a bathroom due to "extreme sickness". You may have to ask your Rho Chi/Gamma/whatever, but PLEASE make sure you leave the bathroom looking as good as it was when you entered it, and if you continue to be ill, again, tell your Rho Chi.

Yes, we once had this problem.

WVU alpha phi · #**124** 08-17-2005, 01:01 AM

I'm not sure if this has been said already.. just kinda skimmed the thread so sorry if this is a repeat!

To all PNMs, from my experience, do NOT listen to what other PNMs are telling you about the houses. Every night at the end of rush, I'd end up going back to the dorms with a group of other PNMs, and every night I'd hear the same thing: "Oh they told me tonight not to worry, I already have a bid." or "The girl that rushed me told me I'm pretty much in already." I used to be worried sick because I was never told any of that, and then I'd be convinced I wasn't going to get into my first choice. Well, come bid day, I received a bid for Alpha Phi (which was my top house) and quite a few of those girls that had been talking about their "guarenteed" spots at various houses didn't get bids there. So my point is, so much you hear during rush is just hear-say, and it's no point getting worked up over like I did.

OmegaPiSister · #**125** 08-17-2005, 09:53 AM

*Dont act desperate. You should show that you are interested in joining not that you NEED to join.

KSUViolet06 · #**126** 08-17-2005, 02:19 PM

* If you make philanthropy related crafts during rush, DON'T freak out if you don't finish it or it's not the prettiest thing in the world. The chapter could care less.

Jhawkalum · #**127** 08-18-2005, 05:15 PM

If your rusher offers to carry your drink as you walk to your seat or around the house, accept this. They want to carry your drink because they know you may be nervous and spill. If they spill, they aren't going to get flustered if they spill punch on the white carpet. They want to avoid all situations that would make you feel bad or uncomfortable.

I didn't understand this when on the first, and I wondered if they thought I was uncoordinated. Then I looked around and realized everyone was doing this for the PNMs.

KSUViolet06 · #**128** 08-19-2005, 04:53 PM

*If you're a legacy and you happen to be released from your legacy group. Do not have your mom/sister/aunt/grandma CALL THE CHAPTER to ARGUE OVER IT. Don't have them visit the chapter house either. That's rude.

*DON'T have them visit the Panhellenic office either. That's stupid because they have NOTHING to do with individual chapter decisions and you'll be wasting their time.

CarolinaDG · #**129** 08-20-2005, 09:22 AM

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Originally posted by JocelynC
*If you're a legacy and you happen to be released from your legacy group. Do not have your mom/sister/aunt/grandma CALL THE CHAPTER to ARGUE OVER IT. Don't have them visit the chapter house either. That's rude.

*DON'T have them visit the Panhellenic office either. That's stupid because they have NOTHING to do with individual chapter decisions and you'll be wasting their time.

And don't tell the chapter that you do end up going, "Yeah, I was a legacy of XYZ... My mom was pretty mad that they didn't accept me." Not cool.

lagirl33 · #**130** 08-22-2005, 07:09 PM

Also, don't take it personally if your legacy house doesn't invite you back. Just because your mom/sister was a ABC at one school, does not mean that you will fit in well with the ABC chapter at a different school. One girl who I rushed with last year was extremely upset when she was cut from her legacy house, but she really didn't fit with the girls in that house.

But, don't be afraid to tell a chapter that you got interested in Greek Life because of a friend/cousin/sister in that chapter at another school. My cousin is a DG at UCSD, and when I was rushing and asked why I chose to rush, I talked about her. It turns out that a girl from UCSD had just transfered to UCLA (who was a DG) and ended up knowing my cousin well. It was a fun convo, and we got to talk about the different schools, San Diego vs. LA, etc. Nice icebreaker.

LionTamer · #**131** 09-26-2005, 01:16 PM

DO think twice before joining as a pair or trio. Be sure you're joining because it's a good fit for YOU and not just a good fit for "the gang".

CarolinaDG · #**132** 09-26-2005, 07:12 PM

What not to say:

"Hold on for a sec, I've got a gnarly booger that I need to pick."

CarolinaDG · #**133** 09-26-2005, 07:13 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by LionTamer
DO think twice before joining as a pair or trio. Be sure you're joining because it's a good fit for YOU and not just a good fit for "the gang".

When I went through, several of my friends got cut from the sorority that I preffed. Why, I have no clue, but they did. As much as I feel like my chapter was a great fit for me, I would be lying if I said that part of what swayed my decision was the fact that I would have had to pledge the other one alone.

ZetaHoney13 · #**134** 10-02-2005, 09:54 PM

Recruitment can be tricky, and it's hard to know what to say. The whole process can be kind of intimidating, but just be yourself as much as you can. Some things to keep in mind...

*If you are a legacy PLEASE don't assume that you have a spot. In my opinion, legacies are an outdated and rather ridiculous reason to keep someone, because if a girl doesn't fit there is no reason we should have to take her in as a sister.
*If you have been trying to get in a certain group, by all means talk to them and get to know them, so you will already feel comfortable by the time parties start OR you will know that you don't fit in there, and won't make the wrong choice.
*Don't do what we call "playing hard to get". Every year we have some girls come in and ask us to sell our sorority to them, and they pretend like they don't care about anything we're saying. Many times those same girls are disappointed when we don't invite them back. There is no better way to get cut than to act like you're doing us a favor by going to a recruitment party.

Some good things to avoid in general are boys, parties, other sororities/fraternities, and your beliefs.

By all means be yourself, but remember that if you are a freshman going through fall recruitment, then it is a SUPERFICIAL process. Your first impression can make or break your chances, so basically think of it as a job interview, and treat it as such.

gwen1982 · #**135** 10-13-2005, 04:00 AM

This may be a repost, so sorry...

While you don't want to be saying "I hear you're the best chapter" or "Aren't you the top group on campus", and you definitely don't want to be a know-it-all, you can do you homework. GLOs with the highest chapter GPA average are proud of it, so it's okay to say "I see your chapter has the highest GPA on campus. I'm glad academics is important to you. Can you tell me about that." The same goes for philanthropies. Din't be afraid to ask why a chapter supports a certain philanthropy.

DO pay attention to dress codes. If your Rho Chi tells you events are dressy, jeans and heels ARE NOT proper attire. It gives the impression 1) that you don't care, and 2) that you can't dress yourself.