The importance of conversation/personality during recruitment

[Titchou]

Originally Posted by Bulldog121

Got it! I dropped out of Rush because I was overwhelmed and I didn't think I was ready. I was making good connections in my mind then I wasn't invited back. My GPA from High School was well over a 3.0 or I would not have gotten in. My current GPA is over a 3.0. My clothes were clean,neat and appropriate. I had a mani and a pedi. I feel like I should have gotten a Spray Tan. There were sororities that I knew wouldn't pick me and that was ok. I am involved on campus in other positions. I am not going to lie, the sororities I was left with were just not ones where I felt I would fit so I felt dropping was for the best and trying again in Spring or Fall then I would know where I fit. I

So what are you going to do if you are left with the sames ones as last time? one thing we experienced sorority folks will always say -they wanted YOU! You wouldn't have been invited back if they didn't want you and think you could be their sister. Put a LOT of value on that notion. Only look at the invites you receive, not the ones you didn't. These people want you and find value in you. Give them a chance.

[NYCMS]

Originally Posted by Titchou

So what are you going to do if you are left with the sames ones as last time? one thing we experienced sorority folks will always say -they wanted YOU! You wouldn't have been invited back if they didn't want you and think you could be their sister. Put a LOT of value on that notion. Only look at the invites you receive, not the ones you didn't. These people want you and find value in you. Give them a chance.

Bulldog121, the question from Titchou is one that you must seriously consider. I don't know which school you're at, but for many sophomores, the odds of getting the same houses (at end of rush) are high and then many drop out again rather than take a bid. At that point, it's pretty much your last chance at sisterhood since juniors are rarely ever bid. Your second rush may go differently, but the question above is one you must think about.

Consider this: many girls take a bid from a house "they don't think they fit in" only to discover that they do fit in and they even say how they couldn't imagine being anywhere else. There's a reason why we encourage girls to give a house a shot - and I mean really. Not just a few weeks, but go through pledgeship and put your best effort forward.