If I'm happy, then why am I crying?

Taualumna · #1 01-31-2006, 06:34 PM

I've been in a relationship for four months now, but once in a while, I'll start sobbing for no reason. The relationship is good. We talk almost every night online or on the phone and see each other once a week. We have a lot in common...we're both at the beginnings of our careers, grew up in the suburbs, etc, etc...when we talk, we could go on for hours....once, we were on the phone for three hours!

This never happened when I was single. Has anyone had this experience?

AchtungBaby80 · #2 01-31-2006, 07:46 PM

I cry all the time, but it's usually not when I'm sad. I cry when I'm angry, or when I'm frustrated, or like today, when I had to blink back tears of relief after my supervisor told me not to stress because I'm going to be able to get all my work done.

Have you noticed anything that seems to trigger the crying?

AznSAE · #3 01-31-2006, 08:23 PM

tears of joy?

PhiMuAmberkins · #4 01-31-2006, 08:24 PM

Is it a long distance thing? Mine is, and even though it's going really well, sometimes it's so hard being far away from each other that I feel really sad for seemingly no reason.

I never did it when I was single...I didn't miss anything until I had something to miss.

I could be totally off the mark here...so either way, good luck/feel better!

Taualumna · #5 01-31-2006, 08:33 PM

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Originally posted by PhiMuAmberkins
Is it a long distance thing? Mine is, and even though it's going really well, sometimes it's so hard being far away from each other that I feel really sad for seemingly no reason.

I never did it when I was single...I didn't miss anything until I had something to miss.

I could be totally off the mark here...so either way, good luck/feel better!

Nope, this isn't long distance. He lives like 15 minutes away from me. I don't know....things are really good right now, and maybe I'm just worried that it won't stay this way

PM_Mama00 · #6 01-31-2006, 10:01 PM

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Originally posted by Taualumna
Nope, this isn't long distance. He lives like 15 minutes away from me. I don't know....things are really good right now, and maybe I'm just worried that it won't stay this way

That's probably exactly what it is... you have so much happiness right now that you're afraid you'll lose it.

Enjoy what you have and don't worry about what is to come in the future. Worry about that when it comes. It sounds like you have a great relationship so just enjoy it!

starang21 · #7 01-31-2006, 10:07 PM

pms??

BobbyTheDon · #8 02-01-2006, 12:10 AM

You have a boyfriend that lives only 15 minutes away from you, yet you only see him once a week?

Things are going great?

Ok. You are crying and you don't know why?

Am I the only one who thinks there is something weird about this?!?!?!?!

FAB*SpiceySpice · #9 02-01-2006, 01:48 AM

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Originally posted by BobbyTheDon
You have a boyfriend that lives only 15 minutes away from you, yet you only see him once a week?

Things are going great?

Ok. You are crying and you don't know why?

Am I the only one who thinks there is something weird about this?!?!?!?!

Um no you're not, I am in total agreement with you. Unless you're mean like me, in that case I understand why you only see him once a week, that's about all my boyfriends can usually stand of my bitchy attitude....oops.

valkyrie · #10 02-01-2006, 02:00 AM

I find it odd as well. I've never seen someone I've been dating for several months so infrequently. I'd be wondering if he's married with a family or has some big, secret life.

KSigkid · #11 02-01-2006, 08:39 AM

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Originally posted by BobbyTheDon
You have a boyfriend that lives only 15 minutes away from you, yet you only see him once a week?

Things are going great?

Ok. You are crying and you don't know why?

Am I the only one who thinks there is something weird about this?!?!?!?!

Yes, that is a little weird; I thought so as well.

As for the crying thing; is it because of the relationship, or is it because of something else. Are you really stressed? It could be any number of things.

ShaedyKD · #12 02-01-2006, 08:59 AM

Try living 1500 MILES away from your boyfriend. You should maybe seek help from a mental health professional. I just moved 1500 miles away from my family, friends and boyfriend, and you don't see me crying about it.

wrigley · #13 02-01-2006, 09:24 AM

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Originally posted by BobbyTheDon
You have a boyfriend that lives only 15 minutes away from you, yet you only see him once a week?

Things are going great?

Ok. You are crying and you don't know why?

Am I the only one who thinks there is something weird about this?!?!?!?!

There's nothing weird about it. She's busy. He's busy. They're in daily contact. They coordinate schedules to get together. If she were asking to spend more time with him you'd say she's being clingy. Based on what's she's shared, it sounds like she's being smart about it. Guys aren't the only ones who need space.

The crying could be a way of her soul unstressing. She's trying to fit everything she wants to do and making sure all of her bases are covered. It's not always easy to take time out for just yourself.

I'm thrilled things are going great for Taualumna. You go girl!!!

valkyrie · #14 02-01-2006, 11:36 AM

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Originally posted by ShaedyKD
Try living 1500 MILES away from your boyfriend. You should maybe seek help from a mental health professional. I just moved 1500 miles away from my family, friends and boyfriend, and you don't see me crying about it.

That's just rude. What's worse, crying or being judgmental and snotty on a message board because you think your problems are worse than someone else's?

Lady Pi Phi · #15 02-01-2006, 12:11 PM

Cynthia,

maybe you're upset because you miss him?

I know there are times when I'm feeling down because I don't get to see Mr. Pi Phi as often as I would like.