Unsure of where I ended up

[33girl]

Originally Posted by applesauce

I also can’t help but feel like I wasn’t a carefully chosen member

You weren't. Nobody was. If you were, it really WOULD be recruitment. But with formal rush, it's a matter of who comes through your door. #whynewtermsarestupid

Stick those letters in everyone's face, tell everyone who doesn't dig it to bite your left one, be super sociable on campus and encourage others to do so (including already initiated sisters). And as to why you weren't asked back "when you felt a strong connection"? Have you ever met a guy who makes every girl he talks to feel like the most desirable woman ever? That is what these sororities that you thought you "connected" with are adept at doing, only in a girl-way. Something that grows over time may prove to be far more REAL than that "love at first sight" feeling.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Something that grows over time may prove to be far more REAL than that "love at first sight" feeling.

This needs to be said again and again!

[33girl]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

This needs to be said again and again!

Although re men, I have to admit...do as I say, not as I do. lol

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Something that grows over time may prove to be far more REAL than that "love at first sight" feeling.

http://www.stlyrics.com/lyrics/fiddl...oyouloveme.htm

[Katmandu]

I'm sorry you are having a a bit of a struggle as a new member. It can be daunting to be cut by your favorite groups, especially when it is difficult to bond with your sisters. Good advice here.

I'm going to add one more suggestion. Fall in love with your national organization. Learn everything you can about your sorority's history, founders, symbols, special stories, values and philanthropy. I have fallen in love with many sororities I will never join, just through learning about them on GC. How much more if it's your own. No one can tell you whether to stay or drop and go through rush next year, but learning all you can about the national org behind your chapter could make a difference. Good luck to you.

[LXA SE285]

OP should read this thread if she hasn't already:

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...d.php?t=129841

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by Katmandu

I'm going to add one more suggestion. Fall in love with your national organization. Learn everything you can about your sorority's history, founders, symbols, special stories, values and philanthropy. I have fallen in love with many sororities I will never join, just through learning about them on GC. How much more if it's your own. No one can tell you whether to stay or drop and go through rush next year, but learning all you can about the national org behind your chapter could make a difference. Good luck to you.

Me, too, Katmandu. OP, go read what I wrote to kateee. I think it applies to your situation here as well. Wishing you a happy ending. Don't quit before the miracle happens, is what I tell myself. Then again, I do know when to cut my losses (that is an age-related benefit).

[IndianaSigKap]

Everyone has given you such good advice and you seem truly interested in making the best of the situation. The only thing I can add is to become a leader. This is your chance to be a leader in your chapter. Start by getting to know your pledge class. I am sure there are other girls who have similar feelings. All it takes is one strong group of dedicated women to transform a chapter. Decide that you're going to work to foster the sisterhood in your pledge class, make that your goal. Hopefully, the other stuff will follow. :-)