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11-05-2009, 03:03 AM
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How do you deal with REJECTMENT
Hey guys! I was recently passed up for a position that I was not only overly qualified to do, but was the only one running for. I've never been in an organization that didn't see me as a valued and vital member, so having my sisters do this really hurt my feelings. I was just wondering how you guys deal with stuff like this...
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11-05-2009, 03:25 AM
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If I knew what "rejectment" was, maybe I could help...
And how is it possible that you didn't get it if you had no opponent?
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11-05-2009, 05:12 AM
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How do you deal with REJECTMENT?
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uh uh...
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11-05-2009, 05:14 AM
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Originally Posted by LucyKKG
If I knew what "rejectment" was, maybe I could help...
And how is it possible that you didn't get it if you had no opponent?
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if they vote no confidence maybe?
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11-05-2009, 05:17 AM
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There's a definish chance that we've come to the point of ridculum when people start using words like "rejectment".
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11-05-2009, 06:53 AM
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There's a definish chance that we've come to the point of ridculum when people start using words like "rejectment".
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You're right, but I commend the OP for having the braverism to open up to strangers like she has.
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11-05-2009, 09:50 AM
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And how is it possible that you didn't get it if you had no opponent?
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Write ins. People dislike the person the nom com put on slate and write in someone else. Which is why slating (unless it's a huge chapter) is fundamentally stupid.
If the position was one which requires proper spelling and grammar, I can see why your sisters did what they did.
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11-05-2009, 10:06 AM
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You're right, but I commend the OP for having the braverism to open up to strangers like she has.
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It was very couragement.
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11-05-2009, 10:11 AM
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We don't have near enough context to render any sort of useful advice. Heck, I lost an election for President once when I was by all accounts far and away the most qualified for the job (in my mind). My brothers didn't agree, I ended up as treasurer for a year and that was pretty much it. Life goes on and I'm still very involved with my chapter even as an alumnus as the chapter adviser. Try not to be hurt and try to figure out for yourself why you were not chosen for this position. Maybe it's not personal? Maybe it is. Either way, your focus should be making things right, fixing yourself or whatever it is you did and if you're up to it, throw your hat into the ring again. Do not be petty, do not seek revenge. This is an opportunity for you to fix whatever is wrong.
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11-05-2009, 10:23 AM
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Yes, business shouldn't be taken personally. People can absolutely love you as a friend and sister, but think you would be an inadequate president (or other office).
Someone can run for president, and think they'd win because of the assumed support of others, but the day-off people can write-in someone else. It can be surprising and maybe hurtful initially. You move forward and handle business.
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11-05-2009, 10:37 AM
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While I'm not sure what Rejectment is...
Think of this like Membership Selection. A PNM never really knows why they were cut. You will never really know why you were not elected. But keep your head up, if your sisters see that you can take this in stride, then their opinion of you will only go up.
And if you are overqualified, then maybe you need to get involved in other things that show how qualified you really are. Join a committee or two. Just because you think you are overqualified, doesn't mean your sisters see that side of you.
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11-05-2009, 10:49 AM
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Seems like someone else had better strategery.
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11-05-2009, 10:54 AM
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D'oh! agzg stole mine!
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11-05-2009, 11:03 AM
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seriously,
your sisters might think you're great but wanted to give someone else (even an unidentified person) a chance to do the job. this doesn't mean they're not confident in your abilities, but that maybe they wanted to offer an opportunity for growth & development to someone else.
Are you involved in a lot of other activities? maybe they thought you wouldn't have time to devote the necessary attention to this position. as previous posters have said, get involved on a committee - but learn to lay back and let someone else lead.
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11-05-2009, 11:07 AM
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D'oh! agzg stole mine!
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Birds of a feather, and all that? (Or in this case, featheryer?)
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