How Moms Should Treat Their Legacy Daughters

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by Jen

I'm really curious why the mom has to be involved at all? This is an adult going to college. The mom being asked shouldn't even be on anyone's radar. They should be asking the PNM if they'd like a rec written for them!

If the daughter is dropped from the legacy chapter and mom has conversations with the chapter/nationals/alumnae and they also bring up that all chapters there require recs for pnms to get beyond the first round, it could look really bad for the daughter. It could appear that she was going behind mom's back and getting recs if she's continuing to be invited to other parties after her legacy chapter drops her. I think once you at least open the door and offer, you can start a conversation with mom about how much things have changed at her school and she will also realize that other women might be writing recs for her daughter without the daughter knowing it.